Should Mom Move Closer?
by: Molly Shomer
Things to Think About Before You Relocate Your Elderly Parent
Your home is now miles and hours away from your parent. The best thing would
be to move Mom or Dad closer...or would it? There are a lot of reasons why it
might make sense to relocate an aging parent closer to the rest of the family.
But, before you suggest a move, give it some serious thought. Be sure that this
move would really be the best thing for all of you. Once you have made the commitment
to relocate, it will be next to impossible to undo.
Following are some important things to think about before you make the decision
to relocate an older person:
- Can my elder get along without me (at least for a while?)
- If my elderly parent don't depend on me for regular assistance now, can the move
wait until I have had a chance to learn about local elder resources here?
- If I am working long hours, how much will I be able to assist my parent after
the move?
- Who will select, pack, or sell possessions? Will a house have to be sold?
- Social Life
- Is my elder confident enough to venture out and to make new friends in a strange
place? Will s/he be leaving a good network of supportive friends?
- If my aging parent is driving on familiar streets now, will s/he be able and
safe to do so on unfamiliar territory, where the traffic may be much heavier?
Is transportation available, or will I have to be the chauffeur?
- Important Medical Questions
- Does my elder have a long and close relationship with current physicians? Can
we find equivalent physicians who will treat an elderly person? Many specialists,
in particular, have reduced or closed their Medicare practices.
- Will health insurance transfer to this area? HMOs are geographically limited.
- Will the climate be a concern?
- Financial Issues
- Is the new cost of living affordable? Social Security and retirement income will
not be adjusted if your parent moves to a place with a higher cost of living.
- If s/he is currently receiving state benefits or assistance, what will the requirements
be to qualify in the new location? Even within the same state, there is often
a wait before services resume at a new address.
- If a house must be sold, what are the financial (tax and other) consequences?
And this is the most important question of all...What does the elder think? If
he is competent and able to make his own decisions, does he want to relocate?
Will you spend hours of effort and anxiety trying to find the “perfect” answer,
only to be told to mind your own business?
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